In any workplace, we interact with people of different personalities, attitudes, and approaches. It’s not always easy to get along with everyone, but creating a harmonious working environment is essential—even when dealing with people you admire or those you find challenging. 

More than a decade ago, I had the opportunity to lead a team. At that stage in my career, I was eager to prove my point in everything I did. This approach, however, led to clashes with some of our key customers. My superior, disappointed with my handling of the situation, offered advice that I carry with me to this day:  

“Your job is to work with everyone, not to create discord.”

That advice changed my perspective. I realized there is little value in proving someone wrong. Instead, it’s far more productive to find common ground and build a way forward together. Adjusting my communication style, choosing the right words, and focusing on solutions made my interactions smoother and reduced workplace tensions. 

 

Handling Difficult Colleagues 

 Despite our best efforts, there are always colleagues who can be difficult to work with. Their behavior often falls into a few common patterns: 

  • Self-centered agendas: They prioritize their goals over the team’s objectives. 
  • Lack of productivity: They hinder progress instead of contributing meaningfully. 
  • Toxic attitudes: They create a negative atmosphere, crossing boundaries and undermining others. 
  • Misplaced authority: They demand respect based on their position rather than earning it. 
  • Dominating conversations: In meetings, they often monopolize the discussion, leaving little room for others to contribute. 

While working with such individuals can be frustrating, it’s crucial to stay professional, seek common goals, and focus on solutions that benefit the team as a whole. 

 

Helping Others 

Collaboration is the cornerstone of success. No one achieves greatness without support from others. As the African proverb says, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” 

Reflecting on my career, I can identify many people who helped me grow and seize opportunities. These mentors and colleagues offered guidance and encouragement, creating stepping stones that shaped my journey. Their support wasn’t a guarantee of success—it was my responsibility to prove I was worthy of the opportunities they provided. 

Today, I make it a point to support anyone who asks for my help. It’s not about obligation but respect. Even small acts of assistance can help someone move closer to their goals.

 

Becoming Someone Others Want to Support 

 To earn the trust and help of others, you must first be someone they can rely on. This means being: 

  • Competent: Have the knowledge and skills to perform well. 
  • Responsible: Show that you can be trusted with important tasks. 
  • Willing: Be ready to put in the effort and work collaboratively. 

When colleagues and superiors see your reliability and dedication, they are more likely to invest in your success and seek your input in return. 

In the end, building a positive work environment is about mutual respect, cooperation, and understanding. It’s not just about achieving individual goals but fostering a culture where everyone can thrive together.